How resilient are children when they are dealing with or dealt with a high-conflict divorce? Maybe not as resilient as some parents think. There could be a long-term negative impact on the children of divorce battles. Potentially, the significant effects of a high-conflict divorce can stay with children through adulthood and potentially throughout their entire lives. It’s important to know the toll that Adverse Childhood Experiences (“ACEs”), such as child custody battles, can take on children. Kevin Chroman does an excellent job of describing ACEs and how high conflict divorces affect children’s lives. I strongly advise parents to read this article prior to entering into the divorce process so that steps can be taken to minimize damage to the children.
Making The Case for ACEs: How the Legal System Can Further Help Children and Take Meaningful Steps to Address Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
Currently, we are in the midst of a crisis which affects our most vulnerable population. To protect them, and indeed to protect us all, it will be necessary to educate those whose actions can have the greatest impact while also testing as many people as possible. This crisis is not only a health crisis, but also a financial crisis, costing taxpayers billions. If we wait to treat only those who have become highly symptomatic, we will be too late, and fail to curb the loss of life and diminished quality of life it causes. However, if we utilize universal testing while collaborating with health providers, we can improve outcomes and provide people with longer, healthier lives. The malady to which I refer is not the coronavirus, it is Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs).
Parents may want to consider whether the collaborative divorce process or mediation would be a good fit for the family in order to help the children come out of the process as safe and healthy as possible.