What is Nesting and Should We Do It During Divorce?

As you both think about your future post-divorce, you may be concerned about how the two of you will parent your children in separate households – what will that look like, and is it possible to co-parent effectively in your situation?

When you choose the collaborative divorce process, both you and your children will be with a team of divorce specialists that can help work towards an amicable divorce agreement.  A divorce coach, mental health professional and child specialist can also be part of your team, all of who can help open up the lines of communication between you and your spouse that can help develop the foundation for co-parenting.

With the collaborative divorce process, more options are available to divorcing couples regarding where the children will live during and after the divorce. One option to consider is nesting.

In the nesting process, the child stays in their home environment, and the parents rotate in and out of the home based on their divorce and custody agreement. Nesting helps keep the child more grounded because they are not making the transition between each parent’s home, thus creating stability and lessening the emotional strain and stress children may experience. Of course, this is only true if the parents can manage the nesting and transitions without exposing the child to conflict related to the nesting process.

This is especially helpful at the very beginning of the divorce process. While nesting has many benefits, experts agree that it is often not a long-term solution. As you are working with your attorneys and other collaborative divorce specialists on your team, it’s best to discuss with them how and if nesting would work best for your situation.

Our team at Family Divorce Solutions is comprised of experienced, licensed and trained attorneys, mental health professionals and financial neutrals. Our goal is to get both parties together and quickly come to a solution without going to court.

Contact us today to see how our team of collaborative divorce experts can help you and your spouse help your children through the divorce process, including their wellbeing.

Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.