Here are four steps you can use to build yourself up during this time and any time you are feeling less than stellar.
1. Be self-aware – Trust your intuition, reasoning and logic. This will help you get into the best possible mindset for problems you may be having. This way you are better prepared for when an emotional event comes. You will also be able to react logically to the situation. Controlling your emotions helps you have control over the situation as a whole.
2. Have empathy with yourself – You will make mistakes. We all do. You will also run a gambit of emotions as people try to help you. Be open and thankful when those who love you and you love try to help. Take and enjoy the small steps you are taking towards your emotional strength and well-being.
3. Keep patient – This is hard. You will have stages of denial as well as many negative emotions that will cause you to be frustrated and often annoyed. This is normal for you and everyone who has gone through a divorce.
4. Allow for silence – There are so many different distractions that we have around us. Television, phone, apps and the like can pull you in many directions. Take some time; turn everything off and focus on you for a while. Even if it is only five minutes, it is still a way to build your emotional resilience while making your way through the divorce.
These steps seem unsurmountable in the beginning, particularly because you are going through a major life event. Self-awareness can help you work through the hard emotions when going through a divorce. You will not have 100 percent of the answers you want to the questions you have, and chances are you will not find anyone to give you the answers you are looking for either. We all deal with divorce in different ways.
Regardless, we at Family Divorce Solutions want to help you through your divorce and make it as painless as possible. Contact us via the website, email or call. We look forward to working with you.
Call 818-933-4504 for more details about the divorce process and to schedule a consultation.